In Remembrance

On 12th April 2014 my brother, four years my junior, died suddenly and unexpectedly.

This very apt piece was read out at his funeral:

Not, how did he die, but how did he live?
Not, what did he gain, but what did he give?
These are the units to measure the worth
Of a man as a man, regardless of birth.
Not what was his church, nor what was his creed?
But had he befriended those really in need?
Was he ever ready, with a word of good cheer,
To bring back a smile, to banish a tear?
Not what did the sketch in the newspaper say,
But how many were sorry when he passed away?


This last rose of autumn, decaying on its stem was in the garden at the Funeral Home. It symbolises a lot for me.



16 thoughts on “In Remembrance

  1. Juliet

    Lynley, how very sad to lose your brother so suddenly and without warning. My thoughts are with you, and I hope you are able to feel love wrapping around you as you grieve.
    I have just put up a blog post about remembering our dead ones at Last Light/Kiwi Halloween. We had a special ceremony last night (a day early) and 140 departed souls were remembered by those present. Today is our southern hemisphere day of the dead, so what a fitting time for your sad post.

  2. Gallivanta

    A beautiful image, mixing the lived and the living and the messy bits, too; nothing perfect but beautiful all the same. And a verse that is apt for us all to consider as we go about our lives. So glad to have spoken to you this morning. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. ordinarygood Post author

      Your call today was very welcome. Blog friends are wonderful friends even though we may not have met in person.
      Thank you for your insightful comment.

  3. realruth

    Dear OG, May you find comfort in happy memories and the healing green of nature. My only brother died (also suddenly and unexpectedly) at this time of year 21 years ago, and he has been very much in my thoughts this autumn. Wishing you strength and support at this sad time.

    1. ordinarygood Post author

      Hello Ruth. Thank for sharing about your brother and offering me your kind words and wishes.
      It is good to hear from you. I had noticed that you had gone very quiet on your normally busy blog. I hope you are resting and recuperating your energies.

      1. realruth

        Dear OG, My energy has been low lately, and blogging’s slipped down the list of priorities but I hope to be back soon.
        Kia kaha!

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